One of my day job’s benefits is the recognized value of both parents getting to spend some quality time with their newborn kid. With the quirks of my office job seemingly a world behind me, we’ve packed more in mere days than I would in most months, with many adventures due in the coming weeks!
And when I’m not lobbying for my #1 Dad award, I’m chipping away at the #BloggerLife.
Of To-Do Lists and Immense Efforts — The 2014 #BloggerLife So Far
I started 2014 ambitiously. With a son still quite immobile and without the complications of things like day care or shoving foreign objects into his mouth, I dreamt of a life where I could rock the day job, be an awesome father, and still run my #BloggerLife with content that’d change the world!
That ambition’s kept me steady on my grind, but I’m as different now from when I put The 2014 100 together as I was from posting that and its predecessor. With the #BloggerLife more serious than it’s ever been and my to-do list ever-present, I’m just doing what I can to keep pace with it all.
It’s a big world out there with countless things we want to do — here’s a look at how I’m working at putting a dent in the tale of human history.
I only finished a third of The 2013 100, learning that my goals and priorities changed massively over time. We’re halfway through October, and I haven’t fared better, finding various ways to fill my time. Some things fell to the wayside — axe throwing, paintball, shooting ranges, and travelling… TEDxToronto… Beers with the Blokes… but despite the plan wavering a bit off course, I’m not one to kick my feet up and coast.
Here’s a look at what’s been up in the life of Casey Palmer, Father Blogger:
I’ve done a lot and learned a lot in 2014. We got back on schedule with our benefits and got new glasses at Modern Optical, finding an optometrist on the Danforth equal parts quirk and great chairside manner. (#s 7, 8, 22 and 54).
Seeing a mobile baby in action will teach you that one will never truly babyproof their home — you can only try to own less stuff that’ll cause them harm.
Buying a new printer got me clearing up my desk, and while much of it migrated to my satchel, at least it’s getting dealt with! (#s 15 and 48)
I read to my son often, even if he makes it difficult by wrestling the book from my hands every time I try to turn a page (#100)
Finally visited the Ripley’s Aquarium of Canada (#97)
I would’ve sold my Intuos 3 6″ x 8″, but when talking about drawing with my Facebook friends, I found someone who could use it more than anyone I could sell it to — so I shipped it to a blogger friends for him to use, hoping he’ll make better use of it than I ever did (#80)
I submitted my work attendance, Chromecast’s in the back of my TV, I helped rock sound for a party, got my watch on my wrist where it belongs — bit by bit, it’s getting done.
I’ve moved on from a client, lowered a crib, donated a 750 GB hard drive to fix my friend’s computer, put in time scheduling Facebook posts for the Danforth East Arts Fair, and we’ll be off to Chicago near the month’s end (#58).
We’ve planned a birthday, fell out of love with Shure — while I highly doubt I’ll see my lists to completion in 2014, it still feels good to celebrate the things I’ve accomplished thus far!
Life’s never dull for me, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. One day I won’t be able to do this, and rather than lament over the things my body and mind won’t let me do, I’d like to look back at what I did accomplish, hoping that I somehow made a positive mark on the world.
Making Every Day Better Than the One Before — ‘Cause That’s the ONLY Way to Live.
So if you wanted real, that’s as real as it gets — I look at my tripartite life, navigating through its twists and turns, but knowing I’m headed in the right direction. Maybe I’ll one day become Canada’s answer to Daddy Doin’ Work, but life is something you’re in for the long haul — not everything will be a quick win.
I once thought becoming a father marked the end of my blogging journey, taking up all my time with all I needed to do to keep the household running — but the blog, my family and my job are all parts of my life, and I think I’m finally seeing how to make it all work.
What I know is this — until you reach the point you want to hit, you scribble on notepads, draw on tablets and sound it out ’til you get it right. You explore the world, you learn about yourself — you do all you can to grow and keep growing… the only one who can hold you back from hitting your potential is yourself.
So stop making excuses and strap yourself in — life’s gonna be one helluva ride!
Catch you in the next instalment,
–case p.THE MONTHS OF ‘BER: On Leave — looking at progress in 2014 while on parental leave from work! One of my day job’s benefits is the recognized value of both parents getting to spend some quality time with their newborn kid.
THE GREAT SOCIAL MEDIA STORY: Life Beyond Blogging
It’s been a little while since I’ve sat down by the notepad and laid my soul bare for the blog. I’ve hustled immensely through the summer, but now that we’re closing 2014 out with The Months of Ber, I’m finally able to see the forest from the trees and take stock of my life.
Blogging’s fallen from grace as my preferred activity du jour — I’ve been rediscovering my long-abandoned artistic…
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The Ontario College of Teachers — Making Sure You Leave Your Kids in Good Hands!
I’d argue that much of my success in life thus far is due to being a by-product of Ontario’s diverse schooling system. While I’d attend 6 different schools before spending some time in the world of post-secondary, the culture and curriculum surrounding an education where everyone’s vying for top spot laid the groundwork for the way I see the world today.
But 50 years from now when I’m old and…
“Ain’t nobody dope as me; I’m just so fresh, so clean!”
– OutKast, “So Fresh So Clean”, Stankonia (2000)
This is your house on parenthood.
Following a weekend church retreat to picturesque Muskoka Lakes where Walmer Road Baptist Church’s congregation studied The Word, found peace in tranquil nature, and connected with those they wouldn’t normally chat with otherwise… all was not well in Casa de Palmer.
A restful weekend in the woods it was not for the recently-expanded Palmer family, with new surroundings, smells and sounds driving their infant son to crying fits well into the wee hours of the morning. Sneaking naps in through the weekend while they swapped off on parenting duties, it was all they could do to survive and muster the energy to drive the hours back home to where things made sense.
But as exhausted as we were, our home was in disarray. Dishes needed washing; toys needed returning to their various hidey holes — we were running on fumes and there was no shortage of chores screaming for attention lest we become consumed by the filth we’d accumulated.
With time against us and only the two of us available to turn this hovel upside down, I knew it would take more than a casual Sunday cleaning to get the house as pristine as we knew it could be — I needed the big guns to make short work of all the dust and grime that’d taken up residence.
It was time to attack this problem head-on. It was time to put on my big boy pants and do something about it.
Ladies and gentlemen — it was time to get my Man Clean on!
man clean [man kleen]
1. Empowering guys to boast about their cleaning swagger
2. Using the best tools, like Swiffer to get the job done right
While I don’t love cleaning, I’ve learned to come to terms with it, popping in the earbuds and scrubbing every surface that dare cross my path. But the world sees it way differently, with near a third of Canadian women surveyed thinking “Man Clean” a poor cleaning job done by a man, when really 86% of Canadian guys contribute to the household cleaning; 91% of these getting the job done at least satisfactorily, but only 54% of them getting recognition for it1!
So knowing that some spit and polish wouldn’t be enough to get the job done, I had a chat with Mr. Amir Johnson, forward-centre for the Toronto Raptors and Swiffer Man Clean Ambassador for some tips and tricks on getting that Man Clean done right!
1 Methodology: For the Swiffer commissioned study, a national sample of Canadians 18 years of age and older was randomly selected from TNS Canada’s Internet research panel and invited to complete an In total, 1001 adults completed the questionnaire between August 14 and 18, 2014. The survey data were weighted to reflect the demographic distribution of Canadian consumers.
Now — my friends know that I’m not the biggest on sports: I go to the odd ball game and hit bars with my sport-loving friends, but I Googled all up in Amir’s business before this interview, a wise move as we discussed summer, Swiffer, and — obviously — tossing the rock on the court!
The Time Casey Interviewed a B-Ball Star
Casey E. Palmer: Hey, Amir, how you doing? How do you get your ManClean on? What sets you apart from the rest?
Amir Johnson: Man Clean’s all about empowering guys to boast about their cleaning swagger and Swiffer’s here to help them do it!
It’s mind over matter — I rock Man Clean by knowing it’s a GOOD thing, and proof that we can clean the RIGHT way!
CEP: What’ve you been up to over the summer, and what fire are you bringing to the Raptors in the upcoming season?
AJ: Over the summer on top of resting, relaxing and buying a new house, I was constantly working, focusing on the knee joints for the season ahead. I’m definitely looking forward to the new season — the fans were REALLY supportive for the last one, especially with #WeTheNorth, so we’re hoping for an amazing year ahead!
CEP: Summer was anything but up here in Toronto — what do you miss about LA?
AJ: Really, most of what I miss is family. I’d love to see my grandmother more often — I’ve gotten used to the weather and transition up north, and my family sometimes visits to see a game, so I’ve got most of what I have down there here in Toronto!
CEP: You actively give back to the community — what drives the generosity?
AJ: It’s really just part of my personality — the way I was raised, my Mom, my Dad, my Grandma — they always wanted me to stay humble and never forget where I came from!
CEP: And of course, I’ve gotta ask — what’s it like having Drake as the Raptors’ Global Ambassador? What’s it like hanging with Drizzy?
AJ: It’s real cool, man — we’re around the same age and we’ve got lots in common. We shoot a little one-on-one, talk about life and other stuff — it’s fun!
CEP: Alright, well thanks for your time — it was a pleasure talking to you, and good luck with the upcoming season! We’ll be rooting for you!
AJ: Thanks! Have a good one, man!
So, amped up from the chat with Amir, I got to work attacked the clutter with gusto.
With the Swiffer Ultimate Man Clean Kit in tow, I dusted, I swept and I mopped, finding the house I remembered under all the grime that’d taken temporary control of our domain. I used Amir’s surefire strategy to show it all who’s boss… but with my spin on the situation:
- Set the mood: Get those earbuds in to attack the house to an amazing soundtrack!
- Make a realistic plan: (So I didn’t stick to this — I just keep doing because I’m stubborn.)
- Stay focused: Again, stubborn.
- Use the right tools: The Swiffer Ultimate Man Clean Kit — CHECK.
- Reward yourself: I’m pretty sure I rewarded myself with a horrible night of work as I prepared for my last day exiled in northern Toronto, but hey. Maybe I’m doing rewards wrong!
So, men of the cleaning ilk and the women who love them, here’s what I want you to do.
First, go to ShowYourClean.ca to take part in Swiffer’s Man Clean Movement and possibly win a trip to The Big Smoke to play basketball with wine of your friends at the Air Canada Centre!
Next, when you’ve joined the movement, you’ll need the tools of the trade to battle the dust bunnies, and the $78 Ultimate Swiffer Man Clean Kit is a step in the right direction! All you’ve gotta do is enter below for your chance!
Casa de Palmer’s been a lot better since — though I still can’t make my desk out from the layer of stuff that’s weighing it down, the air’s cleaner, wood glossier, and the little spaces that rarely get touched look a little brighter — even if no one but my kid will ever see them.
So enter early, enter often, and men — let’s show the world that we’re not as sloppy as it thinks; all it takes is the right tools, right approach and right attitude to make it happen!
Stay clean, fellow fellows — stay clean!
–case p.Casey Palmer. Helping Giving “Man Clean” the Rep it DESERVES. Interview with Amir Johnson + contest! “Ain’t nobody dope as me; I’m just so fresh, so clean!” — OutKast, “So Fresh So Clean”,
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